There is a lot of misunderstanding about just why couples that are planning to marry should seek the services of premarital therapists in NYC. One of the big misunderstandings is that by going to counseling or therapy before the marriage you will simply unearth problems that could possibility create controversy.
While sometimes in premarital counseling issues are discovered that were unknown to the couple, premarital therapists in NYC will tell you that this is the perfect time for the issue to come forward. In most cases the therapist can work with the couple to overcome the issue before it becomes a major problem in the marriage or, in rare cases, it may prove to be more than the couple can work through. Typically this is the case when differences are simply too great or collaboration is not a possibility for one or both individuals.
What It Does
In sessions premarital therapists help couples to talk out problems, differences and to set guidelines on how different aspects of the relationship will be managed as a couple. This can even include setting guidelines as to how to have conversations where one person may not be in agreement with the other.
This is a very positive step as there are no assumptions, no miscommunications or no willfully ignored issues going into the marriage. Often couples may have a suspicion that they have a difference of opinion on a specific issue, such as financial management for example, but simply ignore the issue as to not cause disagreement.
A Safe Environment
One of the most important roles of premarital therapists is to provide a safe, welcoming and open environment for prospective couples to address these issues. The therapist, through specific therapeutic exercises, role plays, and even guided conversations assists the couple in coming to a complete understanding of the issue and how they will handle similar events in their future together.
In many ways premarital therapists in NYC are preventative therapists and are not reactive as traditional couples therapy will be. By working through issues and having a strong and well developed understanding of each other and their expectations for the relationship the marriage is stronger and less likely to be negatively impacted by underlying issues.
